Planning a bridal shower is usually the duty of the maid or matron of honor. Since this position is usually held by the woman the bride trusts more than any other, this is the person who should have the most experience and information necessary to ensure a good party representing the bride to the shower guests.
Although the entertainment and enjoyment of the guests is very important, it is important to maintain a focus on the bride when planning a bridal shower. The key elements of planning a bridal shower should reflect her tastes and coordinate in an event that is a fitting representation of her appreciation of the guests.
When planning a bridal shower, it is important to remember that there is a big difference between a bridal shower and a bachelorette party. Only in recent years has it become customary to throw the bride a bachelorette party and its purpose is very different from a bridal shower. It is rarely appropriate to mix the two for the sake of expediency.
The bridal shower is a time for women to get together and celebrate the bride. It is also the opportunity to give her gifts to assist her in her new role as a wife. When planning a bridal shower it is important to remember that the gift giving process will be the dominating activity requiring adequate space and time.
It should not be rushed through and guests should be able to comfortably deposit gifts in a central location while enjoying the other aspects of the party. When planning a bridal shower and the sequence of activities to take place, the gift opening should not be the first activity or the last. Opening the gifts too early makes it seem like the only reason for inviting the guests while opening them last can make the guests impatient.
Allow for a suitable amount of time to mingle and enjoy the refreshments provided in the early part of the shower. The person responsible for planning a bridal shower should also keep a record for the bride of what gifts were given and by whom. This will make it easy for her to send “thank you” cards.
The person planning a bridal shower is also responsible for making sure all the right women are invited. Remember that every female on the wedding invitation list probably needs to be invited to the bridal shower. Under no circumstances should someone be invited to the bridal shower who is not being invited to the wedding. It is considered rude and will reflect poorly on the bride.